Quick actions to calm your body, steady your mind, and reply with self‑respect—anytime, anywhere.
“I freeze or fawn when pressured”
“I say yes, then regret it”
“I want short lines I can actually use”
“I need fast resets I can do in public”
Calm in hot moments (body first)
Clear, respectful replies (no guilt)
Stronger boundaries and follow‑through
Confidence that grows with practice
Body & Presence: power poses, grounded stance, confident walk, open chest
Voice & Delivery: even tone, downward inflection, declarative lines
Eyes & Hands: 3‑second eye contact, head tilt, clear gestures
Conversation Skills: handling jokes/rudeness/interruption, finishing your sentences, keeping pace
Boundaries Toolkit: soft lines, firm lines, and follow‑through
Rapport Builders: mirroring, sincere compliments, gratitude
Mindset Shifts: joy, self‑acceptance, core values, inner circle
Relationships: unity over division, service, partner alignment
Attention Training: from loss to abundance, self‑love, dignity
Last‑minute requests and “Can you just…?”
Pushy sales, social pressure, or group dynamics
Meetings, reviews, and difficult conversations
Family gatherings, birthdays, and holidays
Text/DM requests when you’re tired
Power/Superman pose (2 minutes): raises confidence cues; lowers stress
Chin level, shoulders back—take your full seat
Downward inflection on declarative statements
Give three silent compliments before you approach, then one aloud
If interrupted, keep your pace and finish your thought
Call out behaviour (not the person): “That was rude”
Soft boundary: “I’m not going to talk about that in relation to this”
Firm boundary: state purpose + consequence—then follow through
Open palms and clear hand gestures signal honesty
Ask daily: “Do I love myself more today than yesterday?”
Instant PDF download (phone‑friendly)
Skim in 2 minutes; use in seconds
Print and keep a copy nearby if helpful
No forcing, no shaming—ever.
This supports (not replaces) therapy or medical care.
How fast can I use it? Right away. Most lines are 5–10 words and easy to remember.
Will this help with people‑pleasing? Yes.
Can I share it? Keep it for personal use; feel free to send friends to the download page.
Does it work with online sessions? Absolutely. We can practise your lines together if you’d like.
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